We Are A Long Time Dead....!!

3rd February 2017

It's the first week of February and to say that Christmas only feels like it was a week ago, this year is going so quickly and I have no idea why. However, it's what it is and we have to live with it no matter what, so what we do is accept that the finish post got a little closer and what comes at the end we will find out a little earlier than expected............."I'm in no hurry to get there though just yet".

Have you ever felt like a very small cog in a very large machine ? and wondered why you feel so small or insignificant despite all your best efforts ?. Well I'm here to tell you to stop feeling that way...!! It's called lacking in self belief or confidence and there is a psychological barrier to which you need to cross. The reason you feel small is simply because people around you do not allow you to feel big. They are waiting for your success in which to claim a steak in your life. Be strong and recognise your own skills and talent and the fear of going alone will soon diminish and leave a gap in your head to which your confidence will soon fill in with the glory of success and the feeling of just how good you were at what you do when you put your mind to doing it alone. Remember the old saying, "You have nothing to fear except fear itself" and you won't go too far wrong.  

Here in the UK the weather is about

to take a dramatic decline backwards toward winter as snow is predicted to show it's face with a vengeance and strong wind and snow is on the menu for the next few days ahead. In the past, this normally triggers the growth of daffodils and snowdrops followed closely by crocus & tulips which is the early sign that spring is here. I always look at spring in a manor to suggest this is the start of better things to come in so many ways and starting with life itself. For me, this signals the progress to which was made through the winter months and for those who are governed by the seasons, you will probably be feeling slightly the same in some ways but be positive as the best is just around the corner.

Remember that your life is simply that...."Your Life" and if people want to make you do things that you do not feel comfortable in doing, tell them to use there life to do it while you spend you life doing what you feel happy to do. This will always make you feel stronger and value you from within, it also has a knock on affect in that the people who were disrespecting you and asking you to do the things to which for some reason they chose you to do rather than themselves makes them step back and start respecting you. I'm often asked where do you get your self confidence from and the answer is simple to us all. We were all borne with it but at some point others knocked our confidence and made us retract our ways. When you were borne, you explored everything and discovered so much. You were never shy and never introvert, so what went wrong......? Others is what went wrong. If you remember those words, it becomes powerful when you start to find yourself. If you feel a little crazy, so be it. If you want to shout from the roof top, so be it. It's your life and enjoy every second in your own way. Never feel duty bound to make others happy, explore your inner feelings and start to unwrap the person from deep within and your whole world will soon become such a wonderful place to be and your happy level will start to grow. I learned very early on that people often drag us down, in my case they dragged me so low I was scraping my knees along the ground. I felt that I needed someone to hold on to for confidence but to which I soon learned that when I was up they were there and when I was down I was alone. Moral of the story was simple...!! As such, I broke the link in the chain and went it alone and guess what.....I made better progress, felt so much more confident and the winning post became more achievable with fewer people to discuss with. The law of the Jungle is kill or be killed, it was not designed that way, it was millions of years of evolution that taught us to kill or be killed. Don't attract hangers on, they are purely parasites and only succeed when you succeed so do it alone, have confidence in your own ability and never fear the uncharted water. The world is round and the worst that can happen is go all the way and finish up back where you started.....you cannot fall off the edge.